when it comes to you have, are given to the birth mother only, unless you are married and/or go thru the expense of having court orders entered every time you have a out of wedlock. Because of religious, social and moral values you have been raised with. Because you are committed to having this one person as your parnter and every partnership, business or otherwise, needs clear and established begin and/or end dates, rules, intentions, purpose, benefits, etc as well as a way to terminate the partnership if it is no longer mutually fruitful.