Based on your description, you are going for at-fault divorce. Not sure how much viewing porn (read: naked women) have on the courts decision, though doing this on a family computer could lady seeking flirt have some bearing. If you trying to get sole custody, then you can paint him in a bad light. The big issue is documentation of the domestic violence and the financials. The web sites, unless he is viewing illegal material, just make for an adversarial divorce. Once you start down this path, it all be a fight, and the lawyers be the only winners. Since you arent divorced yet, then it is marital property and you can legally take it. The sheriff comment has no teeth. You need to determine what you want out of this divorce, how far you want to humilate him. I understand the anger, but you need to ensure you don't let it consume you and affect the divorce.